Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
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Monday, March 22, 2021

Rose Quartz: Benefits of Wearing, Meanings and Uses

Rose quartz can help to attract love.  Pink quartz is the perfect gemstone for nurturing love and compassion.




  Necklaces, rings, bracelets, and earrings with rose quartz crystals can be worn to express love, giving and gratitude.


Rose quartz can help to enhance communication.


Small slivers of quartz are available as good luck charms and are often found in Oriental, Native American and some other mystic jewelry collections.


Rose quartz enhances the energy of sexual beings, inspiring intimacy.  Rose quartz enhances creativity.


Like rose quartz, cherry quartz is also helpful for attracting love. But it’s even better to enhance sexuality and creativity. If you’re looking for a very simple crystal, this is also a great choice.

Thursday, February 4, 2021

Crystal Magick with Cherry Quartz



The pink and red hues of cherry quartz are so beautiful and magical to behold! But it’s more than just a pretty stone.

Cherry quartz can attract love like rose quartz, but with more of a sexual/erotic flair. It also promotes happiness and bursts of creativity. 

Wear it to be the life of the party, or to get inspired!

Thursday, May 2, 2019

The Pathway to Higher Intuitive Senses










Have you had that experience when all of a sudden you just had this huge hunch that something is about to happen, and to your surprise, that intuition was eventually translated to reality?

When you feel strongly about something without logical basis to it, that's called intuition. It comes in three impressions: clairvoyance or "the third eye", sensing clearly and feeling through listening.

Clairvoyance is when your eye goes beyond what it can see. This is when you know what is happening somewhere.

Sensing clearly is basically what we refer to as "hunch" or "gut feel." This is the time when you are overwhelmed with a feeling and you can't explain it and all you can say is "I just know."

On the other hand, feeling through listening or clairaudience is being able to "listen" between the lines. Intuition also happens at times when a certain sound, whatever it is - be it a car's honk or a bird's twitting - ushers in an intense feeling.

They say only a number of people are gifted with intuition. Astrologers even insist that people born under the Scorpio or Pisces signs are naturally intuitive it almost borders on E.S.P. But studies have been sprouting left and right that proclaim that anyone can develop intuition.

Why the need to develop intuition, you ask? Why not let your emotional and psychological state as it is? First and foremost, intuition promotes good communication. It makes you more sensitive to the people around you; it often keeps you from hurting those you love because you are intuitive enough to understand them. Intuition also makes you far more creative than ever. Intuition means releasing more creative juices for any means of expression. Lastly, intuition has a healing power. This healing power is not in the physical sense, but in delving deep into your soul to eradicate some negative energy buried in it.

With that being said, are you ready to develop your intuition? Here are some ways to unlock this gift:

1. Hypnosis

Oh yes, get yourself hypnotized. Hypnosis is not limited to watching a pendulum move back and forth. Perform self-hypnosis or you can avail of hypnotic programs that can strengthen your intuition.

2. Meditation

Meditating means finding peace in yourself. If your mind and heart are cluttered with too many baggage and hurt,  you wouldn't be able to quiet down that part of you that could eventually initiate intuition. There are so many ways to meditate: take a yoga class, or just simply practice some breathing that could bring you straight to Zen.

3. Think positive!

A worry-free, fear-free state could do so much to improve your intuitive ability. By staying positive, you attract good energy that would be able to easily recognize imminent feelings and events.

4.  Just let go.

What does this mean? If you are on the brink of making a huge decision, let go of all the inhibitions and head to a quiet place where you could find out where the letting go has brought you. Sometimes you just have to listen to the voice within you, and that voice wouldn't come out unless you let go.

5. Never expect.

After letting go of the inhibitions and all those things that stop you from thinking and feeling clearly, never expect for an answer right away. Never expect that the "hunch" would fall on your lap immediately. Give it a little time then you'd just get surprised that -- wham! -- now you have your answer.

6. Believe in your first impressions.

When you see someone for the first time and think that he is a bit too arrogant for your taste, chances are that impression actually holds true. Most of the time, first impressions are brought by intuition.

7. Stay happy!

See? All you need to be intuitive is to stay happy! Happiness attracts immense power and such power includes intuition. In tapping your intuition, your motivation must be happiness and contentment. Given that premise, intuition will fall to you easily.

Intuition is helpful, because sometimes it leads you to something that cannot be achieved otherwise. A lot of lives have been saved by intuition alone. Decisions are easier done if armed by this gift. Develop intuition now and reap benefits you have never imagined.

Monday, February 22, 2016

How to Save Your Marriage

As individuals, we really should learn to be happy with ourselves.  But we’re human; we’re wired to want and need companionship.  When we enter into a good relationship, the world can be a brighter and more beautiful place.  But when we’re part of a good relationship that sours over time, things can go dark and ugly pretty quickly.  Any relationship may begin happily and with the best of intentions, but as things go along, misunderstandings may arise due to any number of factors – ego, personal issues, or external situations that take their toll on the relationship.  When things come to a breaking point, one or both parties in a couple may decide that the relationship has run its course.

Divorce or separation can affect both the social and personal aspects of each person involved. It may be surprising to know that even when problems do come up, the marriage does not need to end. Most issues can be addressed and managed with some hard work and dedication. I have coached and counseled many people with relationship problems, and here are five of my favorite pieces of advice for couples with fractured relationships…

1. Understand and agree the problems exist. We’re not talking about giving or receiving blame and fault at this stage of the game; let’s just focus on the idea that there are problems, and things need to change.  Too many people will live in denial all the way up until the last possible second – and by then, it's often too late. Be honest with yourself and your partner. Try to identify what the issues are in your relationship so that you can make an effort to improve them. Denial is not your friend.  Instead of retreating, practice acceptance.  With acceptance comes the ability to prepare for the challenges you'll be facing.

2.  Communicate without fear or judgement.  Author George R.R. Martin is quoted as saying “The unseen enemy is always the most fearsome." When it comes to marriages good or bad, this concept is always true. Whether there are known and concrete problems, or things just "seem off” in your relationship, there is no better solution then to start a dialogue. Give your spouse many chances to open up and try to get his or her perspective.  Even if your partner is unwilling to discuss problems with you, persevere. However, know that sooner or later they will need to start opening up if they wish to save the marriage too. In the meantime, watch and listen carefully for cues and clues.  And don't forget to be transparent in your own feelings.

3. Never underestimate the importance of passion. Problem-solving should be your biggest priority, but reigniting that flame of passion that you once shared is also one of the most important parts in salvaging a damaged relationship. This does not mean that you need to force yourself to have lots of insincere sex or to fake orgasms. What it does mean, though, is that you need to reconnect in fundamental ways. Remember what attracted you most to your partner when your relationship was young. Encourage your partner to share what attracted them to you as well.  We may have a few extra gray hairs on our heads and a few more pounds beneath our belts, but essentially, you are still that lovable "you" that once took their breath away. Strive to relive those moments and feelings.

4. Seek help. Marriage counselors, coaches and therapists are all fabulous resources in the quest for saving a marriage that is mostly good. There is nothing wrong with seeking help and learning the tools that you need in order to mend something that needs some reinforcement.  Getting help is a sign of strength, never of weakness.

5. The most important tip that I can give you is to have patience. You did not get into this mess overnight, and you won't get out of it overnight either. Be consistent as well as persistent. If you love your spouse, and you feel that your marriage is worth saving, work together in order to make that slow and steady effort.  Give it time.

My bonus tip for you is that while it only takes one person to want to end a relationship, it takes both people to want to save it. At the end of the day, it truly doesn't matter whose fault it is that things aren't perfect, who did what, or why it happened.  Both people need to be on board with repairing the relationship, and both people have work to do in order to make that happen. There will be times when walking away is the only option; but until or unless your sure that it is, it's not too late to try turning the tide.

Friday, January 1, 2016

Read for Your Happiness!

There's a whole world in each and every book!  To me, reading is like meditation.  It can quiet the mind, activate the imagination, reduce stress, and force your focus elsewhere.  Reading is such a wonderful way to fill your head and relax your body all at the same time.

You needn't choose to read anything lofty, or super cerebral -- it's nice if you like that, and by all means choose it if you want to -- but even something easy and light can provide the benefits of reading.  Grab your tablet, your dusty copy of War and Peace, or even the fun, short fashion magazine that brings a smile on your face and inspiration to your heart.

No matter what you choose to read, reading leads to learning -- which reads a richer and fuller life!

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

The Importance of Alone Time

In a world where we're used to always being connected with others, we cannot underestimate how important it is to unplug, unwind, and just spend time alone.

If you're exhausted after a long week of work and personal obligations, there is nothing wrong with kicking back with some ice cream and your favorite TV show.  If you're able to do so, make the time to spend an entire day by yourself.  This doesn't need to be often, unless you need lots of time to recharge your batteries. 

Try to set aside some time weekly, or even every few days, for a small mental vacation.  Give yourself time to meditate, to read, even to cook or to plan your week.  If you're able to set aside larger blocks of time, make an effort to have an "alone date" once a month, perhaps for an entire day or night.  By making opportunities to keeping yourself company, you'll also be better able to relate to others as well.

Saturday, December 20, 2014

Signs & Signals of a False Twin Flame

We're all looking for our soulmate, also known as a twin flame.  There are so many discussions about it online, in books, movies, and personal conversations.  Because of this, there is often a lot of confusion among people as to whether or not the "twin flame" that they're currently involved with is their true soulmate… as opposed to the false "twin flame."

Because our hopes and dreams hinge frequently on finding this person, we may sometimes come across people who seem too good to be true… false twin flames.  Here are some signs that, perhaps, the person who seems like they might be a true twin flame, is actually a false one.

Just as our twin flame has many similarities to us, so too will the false twin flame.  On a superficial level, this person may seem to be rather similar -- and sometimes, very similar, or complimentary to us.  They may share similar goals, backgrounds, values, or personal tastes.  However, with a false twin flame, the similarities may end there.

You true soulmate, or any person who loves you, will naturally want to be supportive of positive changes within your life.  The hallmark of a false twin flame is of duplicitousness.  If this person's behavior does not correspond to the love and care of your relationship, your feelings or personal well-being, then this person may not be exactly whom they seem to be.

Everyone has faults, flaws, and things about themselves that they'd like to repair.  However, sooner or later, most of us will come to terms with those issues as we mature.  Just as you are willing to sacrifice and improve yourself for the good of your relationship, so too should your soulmate be willing to do the same for you and your relationship.  A false twin flame may show a selfish streak, be unwilling to improve him- or herself, or exhibit a lack of care regarding your feelings or what's best for you as a couple.

A false twin flame will also take advantage of the other person in the relationship, be it financially, spiritually, sexually, or otherwise.  All the giving in the world is not enough for the false twin flame.  The false twin flame is left unfulfilled, as is the giver.  No one wins in a relationship like this.

While there may be a deep attraction between the two people, the giver may still feel a sense of anxiety or stress in the relationship.  The false twin flame may behave in ways that upset or depress the giver, whether these actions are conscious or not.  The false twin flame may deplete or sap the energy of the giver.  This is not a healthy relationship.

Upon a break between these two, the giver may come to realize exactly how much time and effort was expended into this relationship while the false twin flame did not truly experience the same connection.  Remember that many connections which are easily made, are also easily broken.  It is important to take an objective look at this relationship.  There are lessons to be learned from dealing with false twin flames as we evolve ever closer to the person we're supposed to be as we prepare to receive our true soulmate.



Friday, July 4, 2014

How to Be Sexier for Your Man: Lesson #5, Connecting With Him

Another great way to be sexier for your man is to flat-out tell him that you are trying to be sexy for him.  He'll get quite a boost realizing that you're trying to please him.  You could also talk about fantasies or things that you might want to try in bed.  Who knows… you may just learn something that you didn't know before.

Physical contact is also important.  You don't need to jump on him right that very second -- though I bet he wouldn't mind that, either! -- Be a bit of a seductress.  Use your hands to caress him, massage him, and just enjoy being close.  Kissing works too, especially if it's been awhile since the two of you really kissed.  If you're unsure how to begin, try remembering -- and talking about -- sweet or loving or romantic memories that the two of you share, such as when you first met or when you just began dating. 

Remember that every relationship, no matter how successful, can always use a little something extra now and then.  Keeping the spark with someone you love can sometimes take a bit of effort at times.  The good news is that when you make the effort, you will find that it's well worth it.  And that old gentle flame that you've enjoyed for years can turn into a roaring blaze before you know what's happening!

Sunday, May 25, 2014

The Seven Sacred Spiritual Baths (7 Baños Sagrados Espirituales)

I have a container of 7 Baños Sagrados Espirituales, "Seven Sacred Spiritual Baths."  There are seven packs of scented bath salts.  Each day, you say a prayer over the salts and add them to your bath water.  It is said to be very effective.

Here's a translation of the instructions, which include incantations (prayers) to say over your bath water.

"Many are those who rise up against me, but you, holy Spirit, you are my defense. You're close to all who call you honestly, I (state your name) I call for you to grant me the following.

Sunday, Bath No. 1: That deprive me of all the evil that I have done. Blessed be God forever.

Monday, Bath # 2: May I never miss work. Lord be blessed forever.

Tuesday, Bath #3: To protect me from the envy and hatred. Lord be blessed forever.

Wednesday, Bath # 4: Let my money go always to meet my needs. Lord be blessed forever.

Thursday, Bath # 5: By the power of love get happiness. Lord be blessed forever.

Friday, Bath #6: That des peace and tranquility to my spirit and my home. Lord be blessed forever.

Saturday, Bath # 7: Always protect me from danger and tradition of all evil and they want me in the future. Blessed be God forever. "

This prayer is recited only SEVEN SACRED SPIRITUAL BATHS. After bathing normally in a pint of water dissolve intended envelope corresponding to the day and bathe from head to toe.

Legitimate sacred baths: A set for spiritual strength

In harmonious activity under a single principle... "good for goodness itself: good luck in business, peace and tranquility at home, love, health, and work." Salt baths were used originally by the ancient Roman royalty, Caesar and Cleopatra, and also the Queen of Sheba.

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

The Galactic Federation of Light


Whether you believe in benevolent aliens or not, this is fun to think about! :)

The Galactic Federation of Light are here to help us weather the dangers of other entities within our planet -- dark forces which are said to be destructive to the Earth.

The Earth has been isolated by the Galactic Federation of Light so as to control the growth and actions of dark forces. There are substantial amounts of guardians encompassing Earth and they notice all of our activities. Our Earth's isolation will end once the dark forces on Earth have been vanquished, and the light begins to encompass our planet.

The Galactic Federation of Light is not of Earth -- some call them extraterrestrials. The delegates of the Galactic Federation of Light are thought to resemble humans, however, and their emissaries often live on Earth in a human incarnation. People of Earth will, at some point in the future, also join with the Galactic Federation of Light.

They have discreetly done numerous things to help us.  For example, some say that they have assisted in the following ways:

Disabling atomic weapons;

Lessening the effects the radiation emitted from the nuclear emergency in Japan;

Assisting in clearing the Gulf Coast oil spill;

Neutralizing chemical fallout in various crisis areas around the world;

Cleaning up contaminations or pollution in specific parts of our planet.

After the end of the second world war, the delegates of the Galactic Federation of Light reached the Unites States government to caution them of the extraterrestrials from the Orion Empire, with whom the Unites States government had a mysterious First Contact.

The Galactic Federation of Light have a protocol of not interfering directly with people until enough of us are mindful of their existence -- in this way, they can gradually alert us of their presence in ways that are less fearful. That is one of the main reasons behind the rise in UFO sightings all around the globe throughout our present times.

Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Dealing With Ideas That Limit You



In short, get rid of them!

When you have beliefs, ideas, or impressions that curtail your own emotional development, you are committing a true act of cruelty upon yourself.  You're hindering your own progress and putting roadblocks up in the way of your own happiness.

Self-reflection can be an important part of growing up, no matter what age you may be.  Try getting out of your own comfort zone from time to time.  Dip your toes into new and unusual places -- it may be exciting or even frightening, but it will definitely expand your mind and show you cool new ways of living and thinking.

When you remove your old, limiting ways of thinking, you are opening yourself up to wild new possibilities for happiness and fulfillment!

Thursday, May 1, 2014

How To Be Sexier For Your Man, Lesson #3: Affirmations

Affirmations are scripts that you can use for self-talk to infuse a little positivity in your mind.    If you feel that you need a little boost in the confidence department, try some positive affirmations to get things going. 

Some of my favorites to enhance one's sex appeal are as follows:
 
I'm beautiful every day, but today I look especially hot!

Men really respond to my sexy energy.

My butt (or my chest) looks great in these jeans… or in this dress… pick your most flattering outfit and tell yourself how gorgeous you look!

I can have anyone I want.

I'm every man's dream come true.

I am naturally so enticing, that no one can resist me.

While it's true that some of these are a little bit over the top, that's the whole point of affirmations.  Make them as vivid and wild as you like.  Spark your inner creativity and live in that moment of personal empowerment.

Thursday, April 24, 2014

Free Binaural Beats to Attract Your Soulmate!

The world needs more love!  Lonely souls, meant to be together, should be joined and united as they're intended. Can the Law of Attraction help?

I've done research on binaural beats and other brain entertainment in order to share my findings with you.  I have put together a set of videos featuring soothing images and binaural beats which can help to put your mind in the right "frequency" to find your true love.  Bookmark them and use them every day when you're feeling the need to connect, or beginning to lose hope that your soulmate is coming.  Enjoy!




Ten-Fold Journey meditations into Twin Flames Reunion.
Better realized if you have seen each other at least once.

The four functions of Self,
* will
* sense
* think
* feel
relationship; Self's attributes,
* identity
* power
* awareness
* ability
and expression of Self, are listed in the first column.
The second column shows the actual choice of frequencies for the script.

A - 1. - will ------------- 9.19hz - conflict resolution
B - 2. - sense ----------- 24.027hz - Twin Flame
C - 3. - think ------------ 7.83hz - anti-mind control
D - 4. - feel ------------ 2hz - astral ear
E - 5. - relationship ----- 9hz - relationships
F - 6. - identity --------- 16.4hz - spirit
G - 7. - power ------------ 4.5hz - shamanic state of consciousness
H - 8. - awareness -------- 5.5hz - moves beyond knowledge to knowing
I - 9. - ability ---------- 8hz - past life regression
J - 0. - expression ------- 12hz - expression

The second recording plays in reverse order the previous set, with different
music, though.

J - 0. - expression ------- 12hz - expression
I - 9. - ability ---------- 8hz - past life regression
H - 8. - awareness -------- 5.5hz - moves beyond knowledge to knowing
G - 7. - power ----------- 4.5hz - shamanic state of consciousness
F - 6. - identity --------- 16.4hz - spirit
E - 5. - relationship ----- 9hz - relationships
D - 4. - feel ------------- 2hz - astral ear
C - 3. - think ------------ 7.83hz - anti-mind control
B - 2. - sense ------------ 24.027hz - Twin Flame
A - 1. - will ------------- 9.19hz - conflict resolution

Algorithmic piano music mixed with sound frequencies.



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    Friday, April 11, 2014

    "Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks."


    Writer Regina Brett's life lessons are great little nuggets of wisdom.  There's something for everyone!  I'll be reflecting on this week's lesson:  "Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks."

    Life throws us all so many twists and turns.  Changes are often so hard to deal with that it can overwhelm us.  Just as we may think our goals are within sight, things can go from excellent to terrible in seconds flat.  But don't give up on those hopes and dreams that reside in your heart.  Do your part to work hard and make things happen, but don't forget to step back and have faith in the universe, as well.  Worry about the parts that you can control.  For everything else, slow your roll and let God have your back.


    Friday, April 4, 2014

    "If a Relationship Has to Be a Secret, You Shouldn't Be In It."


    Writer Regina Brett's life lessons are great little nuggets of wisdom.  There's something for everyone!  I'll be reflecting on this week's lesson:  "If a Relationship Has to Be a Secret, You Shouldn't Be In It."

    There are all sorts of different relationships that you can have.  Not every single choice is going to be right for each person... we're all unique!  However, honesty and trust are integral parts of any relationship when you are sharing your life with someone.  There shouldn't be secrets, lies, or omission of truth between two people who are in a loving and caring dynamic.  Additionally, any relationship which involves sneaking around, lying, or keeping secrets is most likely going to end in pain or discord.  If you really love someone, there's no need to lie and sneak.  Come clean and live that love in the open -- a loving, trusting relationship is worth the risk!

    Tuesday, April 1, 2014

    How To Be Sexier For Your Man, Lesson #2

    Another very important thing to remember is that men are visual creatures.  If he's with you already, then you know that he likes the way you look.  But if you want to dress in a way that he finds exciting, go for it!  One word of caution, however… make ABSOLUTELY sure that the clothing you choose makes you feel sexy and comfortable.  They don't need to be totally revealing, but they should flatter you and make you feel sexy.  If not, you're going to insecure and uncomfortable, and no matter what you might be wearing on top -- your discomfort will show.  And that is NOT sexy.

    You could go with a traditional method, like a candlelit dinner at home, romantic music, and with you wearing something slinky and sultry.  All of that stuff really does work, because it sends out all of the signals that you're making an effort to really be exciting and sexy for him.  But you need to back up that stuff with the right frame of mind.  You don't need to wait for a special occasion to be more sexy for your man, just choose a time that you feel comfortable with. If he's the kind of guy who likes schedules, feel free to plan it in advance so that you can both relax more.

    Make it special.  Light some candles, wear something that makes you feel red hot.

    You might think that having a romantic night with your lover seems a bit silly, especially if you've been together a long time, but don't underestimate it.  Guys like to be made to feel special, too.  And when one person does that for their partner -- the partner will be more likely to reciprocate sometime down the line.

    Remember that confidence is key.  Many confident women are brought up being made to feel as though they are beautiful, competent, and all-around wonderful.  As they grow into women, this confidence translates into greater professional successes, as well as personal ones. 

    Friday, March 28, 2014

    "Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about."

    Writer Regina Brett's life lessons are great little nuggets of wisdom.  There's something for everyone!  I'll be reflecting on this week's lesson:  "Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about."

    Does your life feel like it's so much harder than everyone else's?  Are you constantly looking around at your friends, your family, and those people on Facebook that you went to school with and thinking, "Damn, these people have perfect lives!"  The truth is that we really don't know what someone's life looks like on the inside.  The person in public who brags about their wealth, their great marriage, or their amazing kids may be doing just that -- bragging.  Who knows what really happens when they walk through their front doors?  The same can be said for someone who smiles and tries to seem brave when life is throwing them some hard times.  We can also try to be more understanding of those who complain when their lives seem so effortless; the truth is that we just don't know what someone else's life is truly like.  Stop comparing your own to something that you don't fully understand.  Don't judge.  Life is hard enough for all of us.




    Visit Regina's website here.

    Thursday, March 13, 2014

    Negative Self-Talk

    Do you know that little voice inside your head that tells you "you can't do anything... you're not worth anything... life sucks..."?  We all have self-chatter that goes on inside our own heads.  But, for some people, this little voice is consistently negative, damaging, and dysfunctional.  It's like a toxic friend, a bad parent, or a boss that never seems to have anything nice to say.  It can ruin lives, hearts, and relationships with ourselves and other people.

    These toxic thoughts can seriously mess up our progress on days where we're doing fine.  It can hinder the ways that we see the world, it can mess up our interactions with other people, and it can freeze us in our tracks -- instantly.

    Negative self-talk is easier to control than you might think.  Some people may need extensive therapy for it, but most people who experience these toxic thoughts, it is actually not too hard to chip away at the bad thoughts and to replace them with good ones.

    During those times that you call yourself stupid, stop and correct that voice.  You're not!  If you make a mistake, don't criticize yourself -- and if you do (because you can't yet help it), try saying something nice or consoling to yourself.  You might also try affirmations to say after these damning thoughts rear their ugly heads.  Another way to handle nasty self-talk is to add the word "yet" after a sentence where it's appropriate.  For example, if you're telling yourself "I can't get anything done!," add "...yet!" as a sort of punctuation to the end of the sentence.  Over time, your self-esteem will improve as you shrink that little demon who's whispering inside your ear.  Try it!

    Friday, January 17, 2014

    "Life is too short to waste time hating anyone."

    Writer Regina Brett's life lessons are great little nuggets of wisdom.  There's something for everyone!
    I'll be reflecting on this week's lesson:  "Life is too short to waste time hating anyone."

    If we're very lucky, most of us will see about seventy years worth of laughter, tears, fun, fear, garbage, and awesomeness.  We'll have dreams and we'll see them through, or maybe they won't work out at all.  But we should all aspire to fill our lives with as much love as we can -- love for ourselves, for each other, for the world.  Hate is a difficult emotion to handle, because it poisons everything that it touches.  Emotions like hurt and fear often turn into hate.  It can be hard to control.  I'm not going to say "If someone hurts you, forgive them and everything will be wonderful and you can love them again!"  It doesn't always work like that.  Stuff's complicated.  But one thing I do know is that if you dwell on all of the bad things which are done to you, and obsess over the people that you dislike or even hate, you'll be taking time away from doing what you love -- and you could also be spending that time with the ones who love you.   Hating can be a tempting thing indeed.  But even if you can't forgive or forget readily, remember not to lose sight of the fact that you are in control of how you share your emotional time.  Don't harm yourself with negativity.  Try to rise above it and place your focus elsewhere.


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    Sunday, January 5, 2014

    "Does He Like Me?" Even More Ways To Tell If He Likes You!


    He smiles a lot when he's around you.

    He stares at you... (Your face, not just your other body parts.)

    He becomes clumsy, tongue-tied, or awkward around you.

    He remembers small details about you that other people don't remember.

    He touches you -- even low-key subtle touching.

    He sticks up for you.

    He behaves in a more cool, mature way when you're around.

    He shares a playlist with you. (Very intimate!)

    He asks real questions about your life. (Other than just "How's it going?)

    He asks if you want to "hang out" casually.  (If he really likes you, he may
    be nervous to actually ask for a DATE!)

    He asks questions about you to your friends.

    He tries to find out who you like: is it someone else?  Or maybe it's him?

    He says your name a lot when you talk with him.

    He calls you, texts you, or chats with you on Facebook more than he used to.

    He talks about other girls around you, trying to make you jealous.

    He refers to you by a nickname (even a slightly teasing one).He laughs at your jokes... even the ones that aren't very funny.

    When he jokes about something, he looks at you first to see your reaction.

    He talks as if you're a couple, makes flirty references to you, jokes about dating you, etc.

    He compliments the way you look.

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