Friday, April 18, 2014

"Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying."


Writer Regina Brett's life lessons are great little nuggets of wisdom.  There's something for everyone!  I'll be reflecting on this week's lesson:  "Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying."

Even people who seem to live the most charmed of lives can occasionally suffer setbacks.  They can happen to even the very best of us.  Don't bottle up your resentment or disappointment.  Feel it!  Express it, yell it, shout it from the rooftops!  (Well... just not too loudly!)  But once the crying stops, you need to calm yourself, plan your next move -- and do it.  No one can solve your problems for you. Heck, sometimes you can't even solve your own problems!  But if you don't try, nothing will ever be accomplished.  Make the commitment to actively change your life in those manageable areas, and watch the changes unfold.

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Eliminating a Need to Control Things

It is my belief that, to some extent, everyone is a control freak.  We all have fears, doubts, and worries that can be so pervasive that they limit our true abilities.  It's only natural that we try to keep these issues at bay by controlling the parts of life which we are able to control.

However, there are so many other things which we shall never manage to completely master.  For example, other people -- no one will ever be able to fully control another person.  We can't change other people's thoughts, feelings, or actions, no matter how hard we try or how much we may wish to do so.  Nor can we change the weather.  Or stop time.  Or become invisible.  Or sprout wings and fly.  You get the idea! :)

Instead of obsessing over things that we will never be able to control, it may help to simply control our own selves.  We can change the ways which we think, which will in turn change our fears, our appreciation for all that life has to offer, views on our own selves, and the people which surround us.  When we change our own inner workings, our environments will also change in response to those things.

Remember:  the next time you feel as if life is out of control and there is little that you can do, just take a step back and go with it.  See where life takes you.  Choose your battles wisely, and you'll be a heck of a lot happier.

Friday, April 11, 2014

"Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks."


Writer Regina Brett's life lessons are great little nuggets of wisdom.  There's something for everyone!  I'll be reflecting on this week's lesson:  "Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks."

Life throws us all so many twists and turns.  Changes are often so hard to deal with that it can overwhelm us.  Just as we may think our goals are within sight, things can go from excellent to terrible in seconds flat.  But don't give up on those hopes and dreams that reside in your heart.  Do your part to work hard and make things happen, but don't forget to step back and have faith in the universe, as well.  Worry about the parts that you can control.  For everything else, slow your roll and let God have your back.


Friday, April 4, 2014

"If a Relationship Has to Be a Secret, You Shouldn't Be In It."


Writer Regina Brett's life lessons are great little nuggets of wisdom.  There's something for everyone!  I'll be reflecting on this week's lesson:  "If a Relationship Has to Be a Secret, You Shouldn't Be In It."

There are all sorts of different relationships that you can have.  Not every single choice is going to be right for each person... we're all unique!  However, honesty and trust are integral parts of any relationship when you are sharing your life with someone.  There shouldn't be secrets, lies, or omission of truth between two people who are in a loving and caring dynamic.  Additionally, any relationship which involves sneaking around, lying, or keeping secrets is most likely going to end in pain or discord.  If you really love someone, there's no need to lie and sneak.  Come clean and live that love in the open -- a loving, trusting relationship is worth the risk!

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

How To Be Sexier For Your Man, Lesson #2

Another very important thing to remember is that men are visual creatures.  If he's with you already, then you know that he likes the way you look.  But if you want to dress in a way that he finds exciting, go for it!  One word of caution, however… make ABSOLUTELY sure that the clothing you choose makes you feel sexy and comfortable.  They don't need to be totally revealing, but they should flatter you and make you feel sexy.  If not, you're going to insecure and uncomfortable, and no matter what you might be wearing on top -- your discomfort will show.  And that is NOT sexy.

You could go with a traditional method, like a candlelit dinner at home, romantic music, and with you wearing something slinky and sultry.  All of that stuff really does work, because it sends out all of the signals that you're making an effort to really be exciting and sexy for him.  But you need to back up that stuff with the right frame of mind.  You don't need to wait for a special occasion to be more sexy for your man, just choose a time that you feel comfortable with. If he's the kind of guy who likes schedules, feel free to plan it in advance so that you can both relax more.

Make it special.  Light some candles, wear something that makes you feel red hot.

You might think that having a romantic night with your lover seems a bit silly, especially if you've been together a long time, but don't underestimate it.  Guys like to be made to feel special, too.  And when one person does that for their partner -- the partner will be more likely to reciprocate sometime down the line.

Remember that confidence is key.  Many confident women are brought up being made to feel as though they are beautiful, competent, and all-around wonderful.  As they grow into women, this confidence translates into greater professional successes, as well as personal ones. 

Friday, March 28, 2014

Desire for a Spiritual Transformation

Another element which will enable you to travel a little closer to your spiritual awakening is the desire to be awakened spiritually.  It's true that desire alone cannot do a whole lot without any action behind it, but the desire is what plants the seeds of accomplishment in any endeavor.  And sometimes, a spiritual awakening will just spontaneously occur in someone -- with or without any desire at all!  But these are not something that you should simply expect to happen.  You must begin with your mindset.  A desirous heart and mind will begin to seek pathways to your spiritual awakening.  Paying attention and looking for signs can go a long way toward getting you on the right path.

"Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about."

Writer Regina Brett's life lessons are great little nuggets of wisdom.  There's something for everyone!  I'll be reflecting on this week's lesson:  "Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about."

Does your life feel like it's so much harder than everyone else's?  Are you constantly looking around at your friends, your family, and those people on Facebook that you went to school with and thinking, "Damn, these people have perfect lives!"  The truth is that we really don't know what someone's life looks like on the inside.  The person in public who brags about their wealth, their great marriage, or their amazing kids may be doing just that -- bragging.  Who knows what really happens when they walk through their front doors?  The same can be said for someone who smiles and tries to seem brave when life is throwing them some hard times.  We can also try to be more understanding of those who complain when their lives seem so effortless; the truth is that we just don't know what someone else's life is truly like.  Stop comparing your own to something that you don't fully understand.  Don't judge.  Life is hard enough for all of us.




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