Recently I was asked to give someone an update on a friend who hadn't been seen in a year, though who certainly hadn't been forgotten. My impressions on this subject were that the person in question wasn't so good for this querent to begin with, and that there was quite a lot of secret dealings going on without her knowledge or understanding.
In life, we meet all sorts of different people. As the saying goes, "People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime." Sometimes, a relationship is born with an expiration date... these relationships can change you for the better or for the worse. If it's for the better, accept it and enjoy all of the good things that knowing this person has yielded. Pass along the positivity to others.
Sometimes, however, people can come into our lives, and before we know it, things have turned to chaos. Not everyone that we meet is going to enrich our lives in the same way. But even the people that cross our paths who change us for the worse can be viewed as a blessing. In the short term, an unpleasant person may have stripped away something important from us, or something that we think is important, but in the end, we are left with the freedom to rebuild. This realization alone can help so much with putting a bad relationship into perspective, being grateful for the thing that we do have, an reprioritizing as we learn what truly is meaningful in our lives. Such endings give us room to improve and rebuild in ways that we never would have done without such interference. It may be difficult to believe that such hardships are actually blessings, but hardship can often make people stronger and better in the long run, as well as help people to appreciate all of the good things in life that they still have close to them.
Thanks to SashaW for her lovely haunting photo, and to CarbonNYC for the gorgeous broken heart pic!