Sometimes, abusive personalities form in people who have had less than perfect childhoods. And of course, they can also be present in people with idyllic and perfect family lives as well.
According to a study which was done in the early 2000s, a child from an abusive home is 30% more likely to repeat the abusive actions that are done either between his or her parents, or to repeat the abuse which is done to him or her.
In "Stalked At 17," the character Chad Bruning came from a very dysfunctional and unstable home life. His biological mother, a drug addict who had been serving prison time for theft, was so unstable that she was even willing to kidnap Chad's girlfriend and baby in order to placate her son.
But the worst issue of all is Chad himself. Although he was raised by his mother's boss, welcomed and included into that family, he still felt a sense that something was missing. As a result, he chose the worst possible reason for bringing a child into the world: Because he didn't feel loved enough by the people around him. His craving for love and control prompted him to emotionally and physically abuse and manipulate his girlfriend, Angela, as well as lie to her and conceive a child without her knowledge or consent.
It is important to remember that abuse can happen even in relationships with people as young as Chad and Angela. Not all abusive relationships are between adults, and not all teen and young-adult relationships are innocent, carefree, and idyllic. Although this is just a Lifetime movie which can be watched for fun, it is important to remember that even here, there are lessons to be learned about relationships.
In order to do the best for yourself, your mate, and the children that you may decide to have in the future, it is imperative that we all understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships. By educating ourselves and each other about the dangers of manipulative, controlling, or even abusive personalities, we are protecting ourselves from present and future damage. Stay strong and be smart. You deserve a healthy, happy relationship and a wonderful future!
P.S. Do you like the picture? I drew it from a 10-pixel pencil in Photoshop! I couldn't find any public domain photos to use, so I made a little fan art. (If anyone out there draws -- let me know, I'd love to find more for future articles!)